Every stage of development seems to prepare us for the next. When discomfort or any kind of disruption takes place, however, it certainly doesn’t feel that way. It is when we pause, reflect, and remember where we were even a few years ago versus where we are now is when we see how far we’ve come. And how over and over again, we had to learn…how to do things differently.
It’s like walking along the shoreline of a sandy beach. Although it may feel as though we’re just strolling along day after day, we are creating footprints every step of the way. We may pause and even glance back. It is then when we realize how far we’ve come…when we see the trail of footprints behind us.
If only we knew then what we know now. I’ve said that a million times to myself…only to be reminded that what we know now is evidence of our growth. We didn’t know it then. Then was a stepping stone to get us to where we are now. It was a footprint in the sand. Now is evidence of how we have evolved from that footprint in the distance. And in front of us is a wide open beach with endless possibilities ahead. One step at a time. Ever evolving at our own pace.
As we move forward, how easy it is to fall into the pattern of doing the same things over and over again. There’s comfort in a routine and knowing what to expect…until we desire for change or something in our lives disrupts what once was. Whether a medical diagnosis, the transition of a loved one to the other side, the loss of a job or relationship, financial stress, a difficult conversation, raising children through every stage of development…then it can become difficult to remember that we’re being prepared for something else.
Through every challenging chapter of my life, I had no choice but to learn how to do “it” (navigating this thing called life) differently. To learn how to broaden my perspective on this journey we’re all on.
Our daughter Olivia’s cancer diagnosis, illness, and then transition to the other side changed us forever. We’ve reached the depth of our grief over and over again while life moved us forward whether we wanted it to or not. Yet with every step of the way, we learned how to do “it” differently.
Holidays arrive every year. Do we hang Olivia’s stocking in honor of her as we always did, or is that a sad reminder when hers is the only one still hanging on the mantel on Christmas morning? And what we’ve come to ask ourselves is…
Does this bring me joy?
If the answer is no, then it’s time to do it differently.
And the beauty is…it’s ok when we follow our rhythm. When each step is out of love, honoring where we are on our path, then there is no right or wrong. It simply is.
The willingness to do something differently opens up endless possibilities for your soul to grow even (or maybe especially) when it feels like the hardest decision we’ve made thus far. We often want change, but don’t necessarily want to do the work to get there. Yet it seems as though this is where the growth is. Doing the hard thing as we step out of the old and into the new…with love.
May you be willing to step into the new. ..
Willing to do “it” differently…
One step at a time…
At your own pace…
As you create your own footprints in the sand.